There are four different personalities of us
1)What we think we are
2)What others think we are
3)What we actually are
4)What we think others think we are
3) is fairly simple: a situation which is an objective reality we seldom come to know in all our life.
2) is an objective reality which we some times come to know but only in bits and pieces but the filter in (4) prevents everything from being visible.
4)A subjective reality which does not tally with (3) and rarely,if ever, corresponds to objective reality with several filters operating to prevent 3) from appearing
“What we think others think we are” is what determines our self-esteem to a great extent and makes us go on in the rat-race.